Don't Let AWFL Feelings Lead The Way
"Anger, Worry, Frustration, and Loss - these things make you lose control of yourself and your surroundings." - Séarlait Coffey, eight years old.
What follows is Séarlait's wisdom in dealing with me, her Mama, who ain't never claimed to be perfect.
"This is how you handle AWFL feelings. If you cannot control AWFL feelings you will lose yourself in your body and lose control of yourself. When my Mom is feeling uncertain of herself and is losing control and is feeling frustrated, I take her hands in mine and I tell her that this happens to me a lot too. And all you have to do is take somebody's hands in yours and their hands will tell you a lot about how they are feeling. Sometimes you need to take 3, 5, or 10 slow, calm breaths and if you really concentrate, you'll probably start to feel calm. This is how you handle AWFL. Don't let AWFL lead the way."
Whether you have a fiery temper, an anxious need to know what's coming down the pike, can no longer deal with yourself or the fact that you have not accomplished what you want to, or are still grieving the loss of a person, pet, dream, capability, or a part of yourself that used to thrive, I will welcome your expressions of these AWFL feelings. I will encourage you to find compassion for yourself and to discover which feelings and actions you want to nurture to continue becoming the person you'd like to be.
- ARC
What follows is Séarlait's wisdom in dealing with me, her Mama, who ain't never claimed to be perfect.
"This is how you handle AWFL feelings. If you cannot control AWFL feelings you will lose yourself in your body and lose control of yourself. When my Mom is feeling uncertain of herself and is losing control and is feeling frustrated, I take her hands in mine and I tell her that this happens to me a lot too. And all you have to do is take somebody's hands in yours and their hands will tell you a lot about how they are feeling. Sometimes you need to take 3, 5, or 10 slow, calm breaths and if you really concentrate, you'll probably start to feel calm. This is how you handle AWFL. Don't let AWFL lead the way."
Whether you have a fiery temper, an anxious need to know what's coming down the pike, can no longer deal with yourself or the fact that you have not accomplished what you want to, or are still grieving the loss of a person, pet, dream, capability, or a part of yourself that used to thrive, I will welcome your expressions of these AWFL feelings. I will encourage you to find compassion for yourself and to discover which feelings and actions you want to nurture to continue becoming the person you'd like to be.
- ARC
posted by Pearls of Wisdom at
10:12 AM
0 Comments:
Post a Comment
<< Home