Remembering That We Are all Connected
Some days and some weeks I lose track of how lucky I am to be alive and healthy. This has been one of those weeks and I'm writing to re-connect with this blessing. I never want to take my health - my physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness - for granted.
In my role as a therapist, I am brought face-to-face with dozens of stories a week of families striving to do the best for their child(ren). I am brought very close to old wounds and current sadnessses, and yet I always seek to celebrate the strengths of the people whose lives I have been invited into as a professional helper/counselor.
I have been and am fortunate in life which, I suppose, can help me stay strong in my own way, but it is those of you who do not give up in the face of one hardship or disappointment after another who inspire me.
I have a message for you parents of adopted children, grandmas who have custody of their grandchildren, moms and dads in second marriages (or new relationships) who are or who want to be lovingly alert about the needs of their children: Keep up the good work! Every time you put your child(ren)'s needs first, every time you find a way to communicate with an ex-spouse, a biological parent, a guardian, teacher, babysitter, or even me and you truly want and will do nearly anything to create what is best for your child, then HATS OFF to you!
And you wonderful children, so many of whom are resilient and wanting things to be "normal," know that you must always be true to yourselves. If you cannot say what you want to say because maybe the trusted adult you wish was there to listen isn't available, write a note, draw a picture, tell another trusted adult who will help you get your message and needs heard. Don't give up! Instead, remember that we are all connected. Remembering that we are all human, that we all make mistakes, and that we all thrive when we receive genuine forgiveness are the key ingredients of trust. And, ideally, Love springs from this and Love is what keeps us all connected. With Love and Trust relationships can face adversity and grow.
In my role as a therapist, I am brought face-to-face with dozens of stories a week of families striving to do the best for their child(ren). I am brought very close to old wounds and current sadnessses, and yet I always seek to celebrate the strengths of the people whose lives I have been invited into as a professional helper/counselor.
I have been and am fortunate in life which, I suppose, can help me stay strong in my own way, but it is those of you who do not give up in the face of one hardship or disappointment after another who inspire me.
I have a message for you parents of adopted children, grandmas who have custody of their grandchildren, moms and dads in second marriages (or new relationships) who are or who want to be lovingly alert about the needs of their children: Keep up the good work! Every time you put your child(ren)'s needs first, every time you find a way to communicate with an ex-spouse, a biological parent, a guardian, teacher, babysitter, or even me and you truly want and will do nearly anything to create what is best for your child, then HATS OFF to you!
And you wonderful children, so many of whom are resilient and wanting things to be "normal," know that you must always be true to yourselves. If you cannot say what you want to say because maybe the trusted adult you wish was there to listen isn't available, write a note, draw a picture, tell another trusted adult who will help you get your message and needs heard. Don't give up! Instead, remember that we are all connected. Remembering that we are all human, that we all make mistakes, and that we all thrive when we receive genuine forgiveness are the key ingredients of trust. And, ideally, Love springs from this and Love is what keeps us all connected. With Love and Trust relationships can face adversity and grow.
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